Cbreedon,
I know this thread started almost three months ago, but...
Pop the hood, remove the plastic engine cover, grab a flashlight and look around. There shouldn't be any oil, residual or otherwise, anywhere on your engine. I know you said they found some oil on the subframe, but they didn't say why? Admittedly, the Honda V6 oil change can be messy. I had to make a makeshift oil blocker out of an old planting pot to keep oil from dribbling on to my subframe when loosening my oil filter on my old Accord, Pilot and Ridgeline. With the Crosstours, the filter actually drains between this little space between the engine subframe and the passenger control arm; it's easy to spill on either one. Chances are, and this was most likely the case, they were a tad bit messy and just didn't do a good job cleaning up. The subframe is hollow in some parts and once oil gets in there, it will flow to the lowest spot in the frame and leak from there.
Again, it's been almost three months since your original post. I'll assume the oil issue is no longer a problem. Is this correct? I'm attaching a picture. My finger is pointing to the area where the transmission fluid drain plug is, but also the flywheel cover (black part I'm pointing to). With your mileage, you should have no fluid here. The Honda V6 has a very tempermental PCV system and the rear main seals are known to go. Have you seen their PCV's lately? Big difference between those, say, in the 03 Pilot and the ones they started putting in the 06 V6s. If you have oil leaking from the area that I am pointing at, you need to say something to someone. I'm sure you don't though. Also, in time, you may see a little residual oil/fluid here. That's not great, but it's okay. You won't see anything in the manuals here, but if you ask me, a 50K mile PCV valve replacement in these engines is a must. It's a $7 part that will save you a potential $1,500 repair (blown rear main seal). Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions.
Jay