Just as a closing follow-up I finally got the wheels on. I used R255/50-19's even though the sticker said to use 245's. The 245 factory reco was for the Accord, the 255/50's are the same diameter as the stock 225/65's. They fit fine and look great.
If you do this, make sure you use the stock TPMS sensors. Itried using the sensors that came with the wheels and after a week the dealer gave up and we put the stockers in, they worked fine. It's hard to believe there is that much incompatability between these sensors. But be warned.